Fine Sometimes Rain Chapter 03 – P13
Jan07
This is one thing that stuck out to me from my own experiences and my friend’s experiences, people can give you some pretty flippant advice on what will fix you. This isn’t to say all advice is bad, but blanket statements and topical cures aren’t going to help the depression sufferer with the deep existential stuff in their core that they are struggling with. Of course exercise can be really helpful for some people, but so is talk therapy, obliging a heartfelt rant without judgement, medicine, occupying yourself with a hobby and etc…In the end if you want to help just be trustworthy and be there for them without judgement, this is the most important thing you can do in my humble opinion.
This! A thousand times this! Can we just get this up on signs and printed on T-shirts and get guys to pass this out on street corners?
I’ve had depression for about as long as I can remember, and I completely hate it when people tell me that all I need to do is xyz. I don’t care how “well-meaning” that their comments were, it hurts that they somehow think that just doing ONE thing is going to magically fix me.
Haha, yeah it needs to be a mantra. 😉 My only hope is that people who read this will stop and think before they say, oh just go do some yoga. I know of someone whose depression was just triggered by a chemical imbalance in the brain and they just needed meds to suss it out. Each person’s case is different.
So true.
Yup. v(｡-_-｡)v
Thanks Aim for cutting to the chase & the truth.
I know that it’s NOT fixed with pissy little asides or well-meaning platitudes or with spacious, vacuous rhetoric.
I would’ve killed for someone to show some true compassion: as I told you before at the announcement of this strip that the reality in some folks includes near suicides…..
I know that pain, Aim…..
Those who read this should think real hard: IF you are in a position to help & know what is needed to remedy, DO SO!
Jim
(Sorry for the rant….)
Haha, your rant is fine. 🙂 Depression is a serious topic so I expect and I actually even hope for some serious discussion on it from time to time. I feel like the more it’s discussed and explained in different ways that the closer we will become to having a culture that is more understanding of mental illnesses….or at least this is my hope. There is still far too much of that “go rub some dirt on it” attitude, and still far too many people who don’t consider depression an illness at all. :p
Thank you.
Coming from a southern family (both parents) it was always expected that we were to just “tough it out”.
Sorry-it ain’t working that way!
Thanks again, Aim!
Jim
*hug*
As I write this, I am deep in a bout of depression myself. I spent all day eating pretzels and reading Hyperbole and a Half. I slept for fourteen hours (badly), and have spent all day wishing I had never woken up at all. I have to be a productive member of society by Monday ( I’m starting back at college), and I am completely unprepared. I just want to spend the rest of forever hiding in my apartment eating pretzels. Instead, I will walk myself into the counselling department on Monday like a Goddamned Adult, and get me some therapy.
I get this kind of BS advice all the time. AND I HATE IT. Its like those morons telling me to drink more water when I was getting migraines 4-6 times a week, or take anything but a doctor prescribed medication to kill them, because CLEARLY I AM NEW. I’ve had depression for over ten years. Somehow I have made it this far without help, and there is nothing wrong with failing at self sufficiency on that front now, as an unemployed 26 year old who is physically falling apart and realizing she will probably never have children.
Actually, I should probably be damn proud if anything.
Well, sometimes that’s all you can do. Actually people kind of discount the reading of webcomics, like they are some form of low art and not scholarly enough to be considered an accomplishment, but imo reading is reading. So you read a webcomic, you read, so therefore you had an accomplishment for that day and should be valued no more or no less than if you read Austen or Gaiman. So yes, you should be proud, even of the smaller accomplishments (and even moreso that you are still going to school which is a BIG accomplishment) because it’s damn hard to do anything when you are feeling that way!
Anyway I hope you will be able to get through this darker time soon and I hope you will have success in whatever therapies you choose. At the risk of sounding like a cheesy greeting card, hang in there and don’t forget to reward yourself for every accomplishment even if it’s just getting out of bed!
I agree. You should be proud of yourself. I’ll keep you in my prayers. *hugs*